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Tell about a time I was blind-sided... this one was an EZ one to pick...
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It was summer, 2006, and my family and I had just returned from a month long trip to Italy and London about two weeks ago. We were happy, exhausted, giddy, exhausted and couldn't wait to show everyone our pictures...
The phone rings... and it's my best friends husband... in near tears, asking me if I've seen *Kami.
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Me..."Uh... nope... we are all just trying to resettle from our trip, getting over a little bit of Montezuma's Revenge and all, she called a few days ago saying she was going on a trip to Sacramento with another friend... didn't she tell YOU?"
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Him... "No... she said she was going away with YOU!"
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Me... "Dude... I just did a week in Chicago for business, and month in Italy... I'm not going anywhere for a while! What's going on? You two seemed so great and having a great time while taking care of my house while we were gone... by the way, I'm so glad you found the chlorine for the pool... it looks GREAT!"
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Him... "What are you talking about? I was never at your house while you were gone. Just Kami was... {pregnant pause}
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Me. "Come on Barry... I heard you call out to her and have her ask me where the chlorine was, and that you found the brush attachment."
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Him... "That. wasn't. me."
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Another pregnant pause... then... click.. he hung up..
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I called him back, and he answered the phone saying... "I KNEW IT... I JUST KNEW IT... i KNEW THESE PHONE NUMBERS WEREN'T YOURS, SANDRA... I KNEW IT!
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ME... Uh, Barry... calm down... what phone numbers, what are you talking about...
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Him. "For three months now, I've been monitoring her cell phone, and keeping tabs on her internet use, and following her to "work" and "outings with friends".
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Me. "You been doing all that? Why? What are you suspicious of?"
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Him. "Sandra... Kami's having an affair... I just know it... and that "GUY' you heard at your house WAS. NOT. ME!!!!!
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I start shaking violently.
I started cussing.
I started pacing back and forth.
She was my BEST FRIEND... and I KNEW NOTHING!!!
She was my best friend... AND SHE BROUGHT HER BOOTY CALL TO MY HOUSE!
She defiled MY HOME, WHERE MY CHILDREN LIVE... for her petty, gross affair.
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He called the numbers on the bill, and sure enough... the other guy answered the phone.
I called her cell phone, and she didn't answer.
She was away in Sacramento, or so she said.
It turned out she did have an affair or 5. It turned out that she was USING ME AND MY HOME AND MY CELL.. as a scapegoat. She would be on the phone with her "lover" for hours, and when Barry would ask her who it was, she would say... "Sandra" and hang up, and quickly dial speed dial and hang up. When Barry would ask for the phone and hit redial, I would answer, and he would hang up. When I called back to ask what the heck was going on... she gave me some song and dance about Barry not trusting her and he was just being a butt, and she was sorry, and to nevermind... she fed me a line of bull a mile long...
Not wanting to meddle in how people chose to run their marriages, I didn't ask too many questions.. and just let it be.
That was my first mistake.
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TO THIS DAY... she has NEVER called me to apologize or at least to tell me why she did any of it. Our only correspondence was via e mail, where she told me she didn't owe me anything, and I shouldn't have been surprised, that I knew she wasn't happy in her marriage.
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The fact that she had an affair was horrible, and if she had given me the chance to help her or to council her, we could have remained friends and I would have loved to help she and Barry out of the mess... but she never afforded me that... but the MOST horrid part was that she USED MY HOME for her rendevous.
THAT severed our friendship.
I threw my mattress topper in her front yard...
She had better NEVER darken my doorstep anytime soon.
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I guess you could say I was blindsided... huh?
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Good thing that came out of all this?
A couple really... her daughter was a hellion, and incredibly mean and underhanded, and Kami let that child run her life... every detail... and I never have to see that kid again...
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I am very, very, very cautious about how close I allow myself to get to people now... that can also be a bad thing...
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*** Kami... not her real name... to protect the not so innocent... but I am not a monster, and would never post her real name... no matter how much I dislike her.
That sucks! I had a friend call and tell me she told her hubby she went on a trip with me...in case he called. He never did call but I told her I wouldn't lie for her and that was the last I ever heard from her!
ReplyDeleteOh, wow! That's a doozy for sure. That makes for a strain on the friendship for sure.
ReplyDeleteI love that you threw the mattress cover on her lawn, though I think writing something nasty on her grass would have been a nice touch, ok maybe that would have been mean but funny? Don't let one person shade your other realtionships, you might miss out something great!
ReplyDeleteStopping by from Mama Kat's…
ReplyDeleteThis is the kind of stuff you see in soap operas. I think you should have burned the mattress pad as well, but then you would have been arrested or something and that would be too much like a soap opera.
Thanks for sharing,
First, I LOVE YOUR BLOG. It's SOOOOO pretty. Can I steal this??? PLease????
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Third, LAME friend. Are you still friends with the hubby? Poor guy.
My mouth was hanging open with several gasps this whole post - holy crap! You can't make that crap up. That is TERRIBLE!
ReplyDeleteI can't even imagine what I would do if something like that happened. How traumatic! I am sad that she felt she had to do something like that. Do you think you will ever run into her again?
ReplyDeleteOMG! ... what a b----!
ReplyDeleteThat was really bad ..but I gotta tell you, it was a 'great read' ..lol
I sat here eating my Cheerios and banana without ever looking at my bowl cuz I was too busy reading.
I loved the mattress part ... lol
Hugz ...Betty
What. a. story. Holy cow!! How do people think they can get away with stuff like this? Unbelievable.
ReplyDeleteOn a side note, I'm half-Italian. Will you be friends with a mutt like myself? :-)
just wow. and so very busted.
ReplyDeleteMy eyes are wide as saucers girl...your writing is awesome and while i have been away wonder if the book is finished, cause i know it will be awesome.
ReplyDeleteBlindsided indeed! Wow.. That is pretty low..
ReplyDeleteSidenote: You have a great blog here :)
Yowsa!
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