Who really helped you get over something... write about that person...
is the prompt I have chosen for MamaKat's writers workshop.
THE person that helps me get over things is, and always has been... my Mama.
She, above all other people, has this way of helping me see my situation (that, at the time, I think is dire and life threatening) as just a small bump in the road.
She has this infinite ability to break it all down into the such small components that all I want to do with the problem is flush it.
Since I was a little girl... whenever I told her about a problem, I felt instantly better after she
gave me either her advice or her sympathy.
I sure hope I am the say way with my boys.
I hope that after they talk to me... they feel calm, and better able to handle their situation.
My Mama cried with me, laughed with me, consoled me, held me, held me at arms distance when necessary, stuck up for me, told me to take responsibility for my actions, and
taught me how to stand up for myself.
She helps me to this day. Mostly... she helps give me perspective. For instance... when I am having a particularly challenging day with my boys, or with others, she always
helps me get perspective by saying something like...
"You know, Sandra (she doesn't like that I added a 'u' in my name when I was 21)
Pina would give her eye teeth to have your problems right now, her baby is in the hospital, and she would kill have the problem you are having."
Mama's are so good at the perspective thing. Don't you agree?
Or... she'll make a huge list of all the good that is going on and help me focus on those things instead of the one bad thing that is happening.
I always feel better after talking with her.
Her birthday is in 2 weeks.
I think I'll tell her all this in a letter.