Writer Workshop prompts I chose for today are...
Share a piece of unsolicited parenting advice... (you KNOW I have opinions on THAT!)
Tell about my blogline... when I started, what were and are the goals for my blog...
SAY "NO" once in a while.
I promise it won't hurt you!
I err on the other side and say "no" an awful lot to my kids.
I just can't STAND spoiled brats that feel entitled!
I visibly WINCE when I see a parent say something like... "All right... all right... just a second... you can pick out whatever you want... just please stop screaming..."
I am screaming in my head... "ARE YOU REALLY AND TRULY GOING TO REWARD THAT BEHAVIOUR WITH WHATEVER THE LITTLE DARLING WANTS????"
Does she not KNOW what kind of a monster she will be creating???
I really, really, really LOVE it when I hear parents say things like...
"Yeah, we bought Pete a new car...he's been so good lately... hasn't given us a minutes problems..."
When I KNOW Pete dropped out of school, hasn't showered in days, watches TV all day long,
does nothing to help out around the house, and speaks to his parents like they are his friends and he hates them.
I hate when parents reward their kids for doing NOTHING, helping with NOTHING, producing NOTHING, and not putting forth the effort to even finish school!
I could write for YEARS on this subject! Literally YEARS!!!! A book on this subject would never, ever end....it would have more pages than the Bible. I swear!
How about the kids that get $50,000 cars on their 16th birthdays... let me at 'em!
How on earth... are those kids supposed to keep up that lifestyle right out of high school or college? Talk about setting a kid up for failure!
Live in a fabulous house... drive a luxurious car... parents... of course... YOU earned it!
But giving your little darlings the spoils of your income... to the extreme... leads them to become complacent and sometimes lowers their self worth.
How can a kid out of college get all that stuff he wants right off the bat? He's gonna want to live the way he is accustomed to being brought up... never have been told "no" before...
Wait until his first interview goes south, and he is told "no" for a job... watch the tantrum as it unfolds... watch the excuses he comes up with... it will never be "his' fault... always someone elses fault...watch as he's turned down for a loan, so he can continue the life you set him up with... watch how it makes him mad... but unable to do anything about it, because he got everything handed to him on a silver platter.
Curious about why I feel so strongly about this subject??? I was raised with a "yes".
My only salvation? The fact that my parents became LESS Americanized as I got older.
They began to see the errors of giving all they didn't have as kids.. to us.
They saved us from ourselves... just in time.
My parents were poor, poor, poor in Italy. No shoes, begging for food for their families, going hungry for days on end... poor...
They came to America, and worked really, really hard, and made good.
They wanted to raise us like all the other immigrants said..."Our kids are gonna have it better than us" and we did... sooooo much better... but it began to backfire and they nipped it in the bud.
More on that another time.
I just know from where I preach.
Getting all you want as a kid, doesn't prepare you for life... it makes you complacent and entitled.
It is a very hard lesson to learn the longer one waits to learn it.
Teach kids to earn what they want, and not just get it by asking for it.
Tell them to pay half... (secretly put the half they pay into an account for them, and spring it on them on their wedding day... That's what my parents did...) It is a beautiful thing.
Okay... I won't harp in it anymore... and I love to buy my kids new things like the next person... I just don't do it to excess... and only give them what is appropriate for their age...
There are no Jones' I am trying to keep up with...living life that way is such a waste of time.
I started my blog on Jan. 4, 2008. My neighbor Letti turned me on to it.
I started it because if I took out all the journals I have written in for the past 30 years, it would fill up an entire room... this is sooo much more space effiicient!
My goals for my blog? Truthfully?
At first it was to keep track of day to day things that go on in our home... then... as it evolved...
it became more of a forum for me to write creatively, through my experiences... no necessarily in my family life only, but in my life altogether.
I'm not everyone's cup of tea.
I speak my mind, tell it like I see it, and try to interject a little humor now and again.
Sometimes I take poetic license, sometime I embellish, most of the time, I censor.... it's all about storytelling.
My wish and prayer for my blog is for someone, anyone at a publishing company see something in my blog and ask me to write a book. THAT would be a dream come true.
Until then, I am writing my own novel... loosely based on a family members antics after divorce.
It is really cathartic writing it.
No, I've never been divorced... so it's not me...