Time for Writer's Workshop!
Here are the prompts I chose...
1. I used to think...
2. List 10 things you can do in 3 minutes.
3. Describe a time you allowed your child to do something that you normally would not let slide.
Oh! These are gonna be fun!
I USED TO THINK... that MY kids would NEVER be like... (fill in the blank)
Were you that kind of person?
Then I had kids.
I remember thinking my neighbors kids were total BRATS, and when I had kids, THEY WOULD NEVER act like that... I would be the BEST MAMA in the whole world... and my kids were gonna
be angels... because I will set the best example... and have all the time in the world to devote to making sure they are well mannered, quiet, angelic, polite, perfectly coiffed, never dirty...
CUT! AAAAnnnnd scene... THAT DREAM WAS OVER THE SECOND my oldest turned 3.
Oy Vay! I remember... ACTUALLY REMEMBER... wait for it... wait for it...
GIVING ADVICE to my co-workers WHO HAD CHILDREN... and I DIDN'T, actually giving advice to them, and I was... ahem... er.... 21.
Yep... WHAT A TOTAL IDIOT!
Oh the 20's... ya gotta love 'em! So much knowledge... so much diarrhea of the mouth!
These ladies had kids from babies to teens... and here I was... doling out unsolicited advice...
like I was some BabyGuru or something.
I get the willies just thinking about my doing that. I am sooooooooooo
I didn't have William until I was almost 26... so... yeah... I knew nothing about anything when I was talking to them. I have to give those ladies credit... they didn't say anything TO MY FACE...
and were actually quite sweet. I, on the other hand, would have given me an earful, if I had been one of them.
I USED TO THINK...that being married was always going to feel like the day we got married, FOREVER. I am happy to say it doesn't. It goes up and down, and sideways, and backwards, and inside and outside... and all kinds of twists and turns.
The butterflies I used to feel aren't around anymore... but instead, to replace those...
is a deep level of admiration and respect, that I feel, are a welcome respite from all the
hoopla of new, early love. I laugh and chuckle at the profiles I read where the ladies describe their husbands in almost all of their profile.
I want to say... "It's about you, honey... YOU! You can be separate and together at the same time! It's okay! You can be who you are separate from him... he won't mind, he may even think it's sexy!"
I don't know.. maybe it's because Bill and I have been together for 19 years now, that I just
see him as a partner and a welcome addition to my life... but NOT my life, and
certainly not the MEANING of my life. I don't expect to be the meaning and life in his life either.
It doesn't mean I love him any less or any more than anyone else... it's just different.
I saw my parents marriage fall apart because they expected their marriage to be the same after 22 years together, and my Mama expected to still be giddy and excited and uber affectionate... and it doesn't always end up like that... love changes,and deepens, and matures, and
we have to change with it. To recapture the new love can be fun... but not always reasonable or attainable... especially after so much life has been lived!
We have our separate interests, our common interests, our separate likes and dislikes, our common ones too, and I like that I can have a life in writing and being who I am with my girlfriends both online and in person, separate from being his wife...
Ugh.. I'm just being touchy and sensitive today... because I had a long chat with a cousin today about how she wants her hubby to do and be and go and love EVERYTHING she does...
and she asked me for my opinion... and she didn't like it. She really thought I was going to be on her side... and I just couldn't be. Men and women are innately different... coming from two separate lives, trying to mesh into one life...and both need to keep some of who they were before the marriage... 'cause that's who we fell in love with before the marriage. Know what I mean?
Okay... I'm done.
2. Describe a time you allowed your child to do something that you normally would not let slide.
Doesn't happen... I am a mean Mama. Nothin' gets past me.
10 THINGS I CAN DO IN 3 MINUTES
1. put on my makeup... I love Bare Escentuals!
2. Make Killer Salsa
3. Ah! Who am I kidding... I'm lucky you read this far... I am so longwinded!
I won't bore you anymore!
Thanks for reading this far!
You are officially in my will!
half of nothin' is nothin... but still... you'll get an honorable mention!